Cold coffee and Sunday mornings.

It’s Sunday morning, I sit here at my dining room table, drinking a cup of black coffee. I have yet to go to the gym, shower, meditate, or eat. I have roughly two hours to get as much done as possible before I head to the Capitol theatre for our final performance of Moby Dick at Utah Opera. This entire week has been revolved around working in the salon and this production of Moby Dick. I feel like I haven’t even had time to catch up on life at home or even think about this blog. My mind has been so preoccupied with countless other projects happening every moment.

And that’s what I want to talk about today. I know it’s not necessarily hair related but I want to discuss the idea of space.

Within the last couple months, I have been personally prioritizing my life, seeing what is important to me and letting go of what is not. Once I began to let go of activities or actions in my life that served me no or little purpose I created an empty space. This also is applicable to our thoughts, to take out the trash in our head, let go of thoughts or worries of the future or past and to be in the present. To let go of the stories we make up in our head, to let go of the outcomes we think may or may not occur and to be fully present. To be where we are which is Here and Now. To create space in our head, or even better to get out of our head, what’s that saying, “You’re out of your mind.” We should all get out of our mind from time to time.

Creating space in our life allows for creativity and change to occur. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. That’s how this blog was created, I allowed space in my life, I let go of thoughts and actions that caused stress. I had no idea what was going to fill that space. After having that openness, mentally and physically this blog was birthed. A year ago, I would’ve never thought about writing a blog, but here we are, and I love it! A year ago, I was in a different place, overworked, over-stressed, overweight, and over it! When you’re over it why hold on to it? Let it go! Create space for something new.

After creating that space, it seems that it is temporarily full again. Life will balance back out, this opera will close, I’ll post this writing for the week and then I’ll have some empty room again, and of course it’ll fill itself up. Life is like a mug, first it’s empty, then you pour yourself a cup of, oh let’s say coffee, Ethiopian blend, you drink it and now you have room for the same blend or a new blend of coffee, or tea, or water, yogurt, maybe cottage cheese, or even red wine. I know I’m not the only person who’s ever drank wine out of a mug. My point is, you need to have emptiness in your cup to try something new, if it’s filled with shitty cold coffee from four hours ago then you don’t have room for anything else. You either have to suck it up and drink it or dump it down the drain.

Life is too short and precious, don’t hold onto shitty coffee, let it go and allow your cup to fill with something you’ve never tried before. Dan Millman wrote, “Stress happens when the mind resists what it is.” Get out of your mind, follow your dreams, be happy, relax into the world, and love unconditionally. If you want change in your life you have to create the space for it.

I’ll leave you with one question. How much shitty coffee do you need to let go of?
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Love always,
DJH